Reflect & Redeem

Government shutdown!

Taking a look at the Gov't Shutdown and how these are clear signs to start preparing. Start your business venture now while everything else is going smoothly in your life. Your future self will thank you for this moment.To access all streaming platforms head to: fanlink.to/mentormel

Insecurity Epidemic

Insecurities from our past affecting our current. How we let our younger self still affect decisions in our adulthood. How those insecurities will manifest itself into adult bullying.To access all streaming platforms head to: fanlink.to/mentormel

Welding your scars

Discuss how welding can relate to a person's scars. Though we can repair metals by welding them to repair the same can be said about your inner spirit. Time to acknowledge your truth and grow. It will not be easy but it is oh so necessary. No more excuses time for change. Eliminate your pain and take away its power over you.To access all streaming platforms head to: fanlink.to/mentormel

Take Charge of your Life

No more excuses work on inner transformation. Change your thought process remove emotion based moves. Think strategically and stand up for yourself to achieve your goals. Remember you deserve it!To access all streaming platforms head to: fanlink.to/mentormel

Building a Better You

Building a better you through your life experiences. Take your past and learn from your mistakes. Grow, achieve and believe for it is already yours. You just have to do the work.To access all streaming platforms head to: fanlink.to/mentormelWEBVTT000:00:00.380 --> 00:00:04.680Welcome everybody. You are listening to reflect to redeem episode 101.100:00:05.040 --> 00:00:12.163Why help you reflect to redeem your life. I'm your host Mentor Mel. And today's episode be something that everyone can200:00:12.223 --> 00:00:14.940work on no matter the age or economic status.300:00:15.260 --> 00:00:17.360And that is developing a better you.400:00:26.280 --> 00:00:28.080So I was talking to a friend today.500:00:29.000 --> 00:00:30.000and I realize that600:00:31.520 --> 00:00:34.120What you truly believe?700:00:34.920 --> 00:00:35.520you are800:00:36.700 --> 00:00:40.880for instance if I believe900:00:40.920 --> 00:00:43.020That and I mean not just I say.1000:00:43.600 --> 00:00:46.300You know, I believe it. No, we are talking like1100:00:46.820 --> 00:00:48.220It is in your soul.1200:00:49.440 --> 00:00:50.540It is in your being.1300:00:51.120 --> 00:00:52.720It is in you walk.1400:00:53.240 --> 00:00:55.140The way you talk how you present yourself?1500:00:55.900 --> 00:00:56.500all of these things1600:00:57.940 --> 00:00:58.640when you1700:00:59.240 --> 00:01:00.140Believe it.1800:01:00.780 --> 00:01:03.980You can achieve it when you especially if you write it down.1900:01:05.300 --> 00:01:06.900You write it down. You are just2000:01:07.860 --> 00:01:11.560Signing your fate. This is for me. This is mine.2100:01:12.340 --> 00:01:13.040One of my friends2200:01:15.160 --> 00:01:16.560Really got in on her.2300:01:16.960 --> 00:01:17.660today because2400:01:18.860 --> 00:01:20.360I know what she can do.2500:01:20.940 --> 00:01:22.340and I know what she's been doing.2600:01:23.700 --> 00:01:25.500After this conversation I had with her today.2700:01:27.380 --> 00:01:29.180She has the potential.2800:01:30.100 --> 00:01:30.800to be very2900:01:32.440 --> 00:01:33.940Very good. She's smart.3000:01:34.980 --> 00:01:35.980She's smarter than I am.3100:01:38.260 --> 00:01:42.660She can do it. but when you let others3200:01:42.900 --> 00:01:43.700determine your worth3300:01:44.800 --> 00:01:45.500determine3400:01:46.180 --> 00:01:49.580What you can do what they feel you should have.3500:01:50.400 --> 00:01:51.600Why you should have that?3600:01:53.460 --> 00:01:54.860If you let them dictate.3700:01:55.920 --> 00:01:56.520That On You3800:01:58.440 --> 00:02:01.440When you let them dictate that on you then you become that.3900:02:01.980 --> 00:02:04.780You listen, people will forever always.4000:02:06.040 --> 00:02:10.540and for always have their opinion of you once you start believing that4100:02:11.180 --> 00:02:12.480Is when you start to run into trouble.4200:02:13.960 --> 00:02:15.160Especially if it's negative.4300:02:16.080 --> 00:02:16.580like I4400:02:18.980 --> 00:02:19.680Make it a point.4500:02:21.920 --> 00:02:26.620To look at the better of a situation regardless of what it is. You don't get this job. Well4600:02:27.660 --> 00:02:28.760What are ways you can better yourself?4700:02:30.300 --> 00:02:32.600From this interview to the next interview.4800:02:33.760 --> 00:02:35.160Become more technically sound.4900:02:35.760 --> 00:02:36.560How do you do that?5000:02:38.180 --> 00:02:39.880Do you touch things that?5100:02:42.960 --> 00:02:48.360Especially the things that they questioned you on do you now go back and your notes? Okay. Let me write that down. I will.5200:02:48.360 --> 00:02:50.5205300:02:50.520 --> 00:02:51.120Do that.5400:02:52.020 --> 00:02:55.220Next time I'll do some research on that and continue on.5500:02:56.300 --> 00:02:59.000What are you going to do from the past time?5600:03:00.860 --> 00:03:04.360To the current to make it better door to the Future to make it better.5700:03:05.520 --> 00:03:07.820Especially if you did not get what you were searching for.5800:03:09.720 --> 00:03:11.920a lot of times people get discouraged5900:03:13.760 --> 00:03:21.380What type of great thing was achieved without actually doing the work. How do you you can't become the greatest player6000:03:21.445 --> 00:03:26.160alive without actually getting your ass beat by somebody like you have to6100:03:26.460 --> 00:03:27.060at that point6200:03:28.600 --> 00:03:30.800You have to be disgusted.6300:03:31.180 --> 00:03:31.880with loss6400:03:32.580 --> 00:03:36.380To where you will do you do the work to prevent it from happening.6500:03:38.120 --> 00:03:40.620Kobe Bryant Francis this man6600:03:43.240 --> 00:03:52.237Have you some examples before Kobe Bryant rehearses rehearses rehearses his moves before even a game anywhere near a6700:03:52.315 --> 00:03:55.340practice in or near a game. He himself.6800:03:56.220 --> 00:03:57.120muscle memory6900:03:58.600 --> 00:04:00.000greatest player7000:04:01.460 --> 00:04:03.060to play whatever instrument7100:04:03.440 --> 00:04:05.640When I tell you I play that you miss before.7200:04:06.380 --> 00:04:12.080When I tell you when you play you have these runs that you got to like go through and you know, it's tough.7300:04:12.680 --> 00:04:19.580What are you do you practice it over and over and over because at some point in time your fingers will now remember?7400:04:20.380 --> 00:04:24.680That run without a problem. You will master that run.7500:04:25.620 --> 00:04:28.320remember in a band marching band7600:04:29.900 --> 00:04:31.500There was like 20 clarinet.7700:04:33.920 --> 00:04:36.120Mind you I wasn't the best.7800:04:36.780 --> 00:04:43.889When it came to play the clarinet, however, I can March my ass off. I was a great marcher. So when it came time in the7900:04:43.949 --> 00:04:46.480music for there to be a good run together.8000:04:47.760 --> 00:04:51.660My marching hey down.8100:04:52.200 --> 00:04:53.800but now the sound8200:04:54.280 --> 00:05:01.126We're trying to display the sounds of the Audis. They can't hear us. You know, why because there's only two people that8300:05:01.184 --> 00:05:02.680can actually play The Run.8400:05:03.400 --> 00:05:10.093What do I have to do to become on the level of the two people that can actually play actually practices thing to wear.8500:05:10.150 --> 00:05:13.100This is now a not a choke moment, but oh I got this.8600:05:14.920 --> 00:05:18.020That's how you have to view whatever struggle.8700:05:18.940 --> 00:05:26.140That you are dealing with. Interviews now I'm solid like I'm not going to say I'm the best person ever. However.8800:05:26.300 --> 00:05:28.700I like conversing with people. I like talking to people.8900:05:31.400 --> 00:05:37.900Just so happens. I have to sell myself. I'm not a salesperson by any means. However, I do know my stuff.9000:05:38.500 --> 00:05:40.000I'm not the best at it.9100:05:40.460 --> 00:05:43.660I'm pretty damn good in the best part about me is.9200:05:45.600 --> 00:05:47.500Where I am working on something.9300:05:48.640 --> 00:05:55.102That leaves room for growth. I'm not saying I'm the best. So now I'm not but I'm not above learning this little small9400:05:55.157 --> 00:05:58.140thing. I have now. I'm at a point where yes, I'm good.9500:05:58.960 --> 00:05:59.860I could be great.9600:06:00.640 --> 00:06:04.240are there resources that allow me to learn even more so9700:06:05.660 --> 00:06:07.160making yourself9800:06:08.000 --> 00:06:10.700The best you can be requires repetition.9900:06:11.140 --> 00:06:11.640work10000:06:13.080 --> 00:06:14.980You might cry I cried.10100:06:15.700 --> 00:06:18.100Just a termination.10200:06:19.220 --> 00:06:19.820Make it.10300:06:22.100 --> 00:06:29.200Have fun as creepy as I say have fun in the process of becoming a better you nobody else can do it.10400:06:31.100 --> 00:06:33.800Everybody got the statue on what they think you should be.10500:06:34.340 --> 00:06:34.640or10600:06:35.300 --> 00:06:39.800How far you should go? However, you start again if you start to believe those things.10700:06:40.860 --> 00:06:45.560You won't get as far as you can go with my friend. She's believed all these other people and I'm like10800:06:46.660 --> 00:06:51.060What are you doing? You've been this position one position for 4 years.10900:06:51.420 --> 00:06:52.720Did you have not?11000:06:54.280 --> 00:07:00.476You've been overlooked and I when you say Overlook because it requires you to actually put for put your foot forward to do11100:07:00.527 --> 00:07:00.680it.11200:07:02.380 --> 00:07:08.280She was comfortable just complacency that all why didn't deserve it. Who says that you don't deserve it.11300:07:09.560 --> 00:07:14.660Who told you that for you to solidify and validate that?11400:07:15.520 --> 00:07:19.120Actual statement I give that statement no life because you know, why?11500:07:20.100 --> 00:07:21.300If I don't deserve it.11600:07:22.020 --> 00:07:24.920Now I'm going to work for it when it does come up again. I got it.11700:07:28.560 --> 00:07:29.360When you sit back.11800:07:32.440 --> 00:07:33.740When you sit back.11900:07:35.040 --> 00:07:40.688Be prepared for other people to step forward and move fast you like they're going to go ahead and take it. They're not12000:07:40.736 --> 00:07:46.479waiting for you to be like what she finally got it. Okay now is give her the position No they want you to earn it. They12100:07:46.527 --> 00:07:50.740want you to appreciate it. They want you to actually they want to feel that you will do.12200:07:51.260 --> 00:07:58.208Your utmost best in that position like they view you in the position that you're working in and they see how complacent12300:07:58.267 --> 00:07:59.260you are. How just12400:07:59.560 --> 00:08:01.860Not involved you are that stuff.12500:08:04.200 --> 00:08:09.891Is what they see, so of course when it comes time for a promotion say well, I mean she's not really doing this job with12600:08:09.939 --> 00:08:11.900why would we put her up for the next one?12700:08:14.560 --> 00:08:16.660You got to actually put forth the effort.12800:08:17.840 --> 00:08:19.140To get what you want.12900:08:20.400 --> 00:08:25.400If there is a position if someone else got it before you then is not is not a big.13000:08:25.780 --> 00:08:29.880Issue and talking to the person who did the hiring well.13100:08:30.560 --> 00:08:36.160In what ways can I become better to next time be considered for the promotion It's all about wording too13200:08:38.000 --> 00:08:43.351You don't want to be in attacking mode. You want to be in the more understanding. Hey, I want to try and get better type deal13300:08:43.395 --> 00:08:47.900of you because you altimate Lee want you should want to get better if you want to stay where you are.13400:08:49.580 --> 00:08:50.980the be happy13500:08:51.820 --> 00:08:54.920What's the pay that you're getting how you're being treated the hours you're working all that great stuff.13600:08:56.040 --> 00:08:56.540simple as that13700:08:58.500 --> 00:08:59.200Put in the work.13800:09:00.860 --> 00:09:02.160Enjoy the process.13900:09:03.720 --> 00:09:05.520of becoming a better you14000:09:06.400 --> 00:09:11.600That's what happened overnight. It's not something you go. See in a month is not something you would see in a year.14100:09:12.040 --> 00:09:13.440Is something you will feel?14200:09:14.640 --> 00:09:18.240It's not something you see I can physically change all day.14300:09:18.940 --> 00:09:22.240however, my mental growth my personal growth my14400:09:24.200 --> 00:09:28.320my professional growth that stuff.14500:09:28.620 --> 00:09:35.948You don't see you feel the difference just even a conversation with somebody if you didn't know technical terms, this that and14600:09:36.009 --> 00:09:36.620the other?14700:09:38.240 --> 00:09:40.240And it was a struggle for you to keep up in a conversation.14800:09:41.100 --> 00:09:41.900now you14900:09:42.480 --> 00:09:48.543You're in the same conversation with a different group of people and now you're actually engaging you're putting your15000:09:48.594 --> 00:09:54.761opinion out there. It's all relevant to the conversation. You don't feel lost. That's your growth. That's the growth that15100:09:54.813 --> 00:09:55.280you feel.15200:09:56.120 --> 00:10:01.620If they even with in a professional setting arm the first time I went to like a big networking event.15300:10:02.860 --> 00:10:04.660to do wholesaling of houses. Mind you I am15400:10:05.380 --> 00:10:06.180by myself15500:10:07.460 --> 00:10:08.360I never15600:10:08.740 --> 00:10:11.640First off. I'm a very shy person surprisingly.15700:10:13.580 --> 00:10:14.680Especially when I first meet people15800:10:15.440 --> 00:10:17.240I really I feel like I've outgrown it.15900:10:18.460 --> 00:10:21.460So now I'm in a position where I'm around like all these.16000:10:22.200 --> 00:10:28.515It was like a hundred people that were all trying to, you know, do wholesaling and get their business all set in there. I16100:10:28.568 --> 00:10:29.200am just like16200:10:29.800 --> 00:10:31.300What have I stepped into?16300:10:31.840 --> 00:10:35.840I paid money now. I'm listening to this. I see this person. All right, cool.16400:10:37.720 --> 00:10:39.420I find is one person I talk to.16500:10:40.020 --> 00:10:43.020All right quick stick with them. We're good Nahh they left me.16600:10:43.460 --> 00:10:44.460they left me16700:10:45.980 --> 00:10:46.980fast forward again16800:10:48.480 --> 00:10:50.380to an event16900:10:52.400 --> 00:10:54.800I would say was probably about six months ago.17000:10:55.920 --> 00:10:58.520Mind you that first event I went to the outside was in my17100:11:00.460 --> 00:11:02.160Maybe like 23.17200:11:03.680 --> 00:11:04.580222317300:11:05.400 --> 00:11:07.700Now I'm 29 in this event. I'm just okay.17400:11:09.200 --> 00:11:11.500We're taking this whole networking. Thanks a whole nother level.17500:11:12.080 --> 00:11:14.580Meeting these different people now you're realizing the actual.17600:11:16.020 --> 00:11:20.220The point of meeting all these other people contacts contacts contacts.17700:11:22.720 --> 00:11:25.120That's the thing that you once you realize.17800:11:25.940 --> 00:11:30.240Your purpose there what you're supposed to be doing there. Then you realize the point of it.17900:11:31.020 --> 00:11:33.320Just to know the growth then.18000:11:34.000 --> 00:11:38.800Just to feel the growth from when I was first in that situation to where I am now.18100:11:40.040 --> 00:11:40.540that took18200:11:41.000 --> 00:11:42.2006 years18300:11:43.300 --> 00:11:44.5006 years18400:11:47.420 --> 00:11:50.620Not saying I wasn't I wasn't purposely trying to work on it, but18500:11:51.240 --> 00:11:52.240Now I'm back in this environment.18600:11:53.620 --> 00:11:56.220Here's what I did wrong the first time. Let me better myself.18700:11:57.360 --> 00:12:02.160That's what it takes to become a better you you personally have to realize the work.18800:12:04.520 --> 00:12:05.420That needs to be done18900:12:05.960 --> 00:12:10.360or you need to realize how uncomfortable you felt in this environment and now19000:12:12.220 --> 00:12:15.420I'm back in this how am I going to better myself to be able to?19100:12:16.000 --> 00:12:18.800Not feel uncomfortable to be able to stand with.19200:12:19.840 --> 00:12:20.940and to be able to contribute19300:12:24.660 --> 00:12:25.360Focus19400:12:26.040 --> 00:12:29.040A lot of these young kids nowadays they are too busy.19500:12:29.680 --> 00:12:31.880focusing on other people19600:12:32.360 --> 00:12:36.060Too busy focusing on with this person have or too busy.19700:12:36.760 --> 00:12:38.760trying to keep up with this person and19800:12:39.600 --> 00:12:44.000What is the social media big hype challenge thing is like?19900:12:44.840 --> 00:12:51.740You've got to tune it all out because you know what at the end of the day. It does not affect you on a one-on-one level.20000:12:52.360 --> 00:13:01.518I hope you all Implement some of these suggestions remember to work on a better you begins with y o and you until we meet20100:13:01.594 --> 00:13:06.060again, this is Melanie McFadden in Mentor Mill signing off.